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The point of this blog post is for me to share my experience in the hopes it might touch your life in a positive way.  Perhaps my rambling will touch your heart or be similar to what you are going through and help you make a small change.  The point is for YOU to be GOOD TO YOU!!!

TAKE TIME

Take time to notice ALL your accomplishments, not just the things that did not get done.  Each accomplishment builds on the other.

I WAS GOING TO

I was going to start this post with…  “I’m on Day 2 of my 30-day journey and have not gotten very far.  I take that back…I can already feel the peace re-entering my life ~ I realized this morning I was sleeping better.  I believe this is an EXCELLENT start!  We cannot make good decisions when our life is in emotional disarray!

When I did Tony Robbins course “Get The Edge” for the first time, Tony explained how we have to “condition our minds each day” as we would our body in order to keep it strong.

Eric Lofholm teaches you need to listen to his materials SEVEN (7) times.  When I first heard that I thought he was nuts. However, as time passed I realized that each time I heard the same thing “I heard it differently!” Why was it different, because I WAS different.  I WAS in a different place.  With each new thought my foundation got stronger and I became more balanced. I know this because I’ve learned to recognize when things are not really going the way I want, when my emotions and body begin to act in a negative way.  At one time I would have just gone along with the negative flow with all the negatives results attached.

Have you ever heard or read something that seemed to make a big difference in your attitude?  It worked for a few days or even weeks or perhaps months?  THEN… SUDDENLY life stepped in and all that good stuff flew out the window?  I have… many times!

My intention is to live in a more peaceful state of being, to be serene if you will.  This all sounds great, believe me I know me… It’s going to take a lot of work, but I’ve come to the point where it is TOO PAINFUL NOT to make changes.  I no longer enjoy the things I was (AM) so passionate about ~ That’s a BIG CLUE!  Maybe it really is time to change focus… but I need to get to a peaceful place to make an educated decision.  It might not be the perfect solution, but doing it when I am so at unrest would be just adding to the confusion and disaster.

ROZ LEARNS PATIENCE

I’m even learning a bit of patience…  Yesterday afternoon I spent about three hours at a government office where I had to update some information and when it got to me — that’s right, it was MY TURN — the announcement came “the computers went down!” They said we could wait or come back.  It is a big trip for me, so I decided to remain until the end, with positive thoughts the computers would come back up just in time.  You know what… The computers NEVER came back up!

At one time I would have gotten all bent out of shape, saying:

• Why me?
• This always happens to me!
• If I would have gone earlier
• Just my luck, and on and on.

This time I said:  “Well with computers, one never knows. Who really knows if I would have gone earlier the computers or something else would have happened.”  We just don’t know from one moment to the other!  “Hindsight is 20/20, but real sight is uncertain!” ~Roz Fruchtman

I was not happy, but what could I do.  So I am deciding if I should go back today or wait until tomorrow ~ and do some other things that really need to be done today!  Could it be that I’m developing patience?  GO ROZ!

That’s it for now… The sun is shining and I can’t wait to get out in it!

TAKE TIME

Some of you have said you would love to take time to re-evauate, but you do not have the time with life stepping in all the time.  YOU are YOUR LIFE!  Is there a better reason than that?  EVEN IF you take a few moments each day to write a grateful list… writing makes it more real and is a REAL attitude changer ~ besides you can review it when you are not feeling so grateful! ;)

NOTHING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR?

You’re alive aren’t you?… Start with that!  IF you are reading this you can see.  IF you are listening to it you can hear, etc. etc.

A LAST THOUGHT

YOU are the MOST IMPORTANT Person in YOUR Life!
IF…YOU don’t take care of YOU…
YOU will be of NO USE  to YOU or anyone else!

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Today starts my 30 Day Journey of ”Everything Roz!”  Before this writing I was calling it just a much needed vacation, but it is much more than that. 

You may ask, what on earth does “Everything Roz” mean?  Read on, you might relate more than you’d like to admit!

• Did you ever feel like everything was just too much;
• That you just did not want to take it anymore;
• Like you felt like a doormat;
• Like YOU were the only one who cared;
• Like the very things you loved and cared about were no longer important and fun?

Well if you felt anything I described above your are not alone.  Some would call it burnout, but I think — at least in my case — there is more to it.

Have you ever heard the expression:  “To do the same thing and expect different results is crazy!”  Well it is…  IF things are not working, CHANGE THEM! 

BUT, BUT, BUT, BUT…  change is hard. It’s hard to say goodbye to something you love or to doing something you love in a different way.  But you know what?  I bet it is freeing once the decision is made! I’m not there yet, but that is my mission!

I’ve decided to take 30 Days (or more) to just chill and take some time to decide what I really want to do and learn some essential software’s and programs along the way.  This is NOT just more learning, but learning things that will help me, help others!

Sometimes we are our own worst enemies ~ especially when we are lucky enough to make most of our own rules and the rules we DO make DO NOT serve us!

So today starts the period of evaluation for me, starting with:

• My health
• My apartment
• Decisions about my business
• Decisions how to use my skills and creativity to produce income while contributing to other’s needs

WHAT I DO NOT WANT

I just do not want to do the same things I’ve done up until now.  I’ve learned a lot and all that I learned is useful, but it is just not making me happy any longer.  In fact, if I were to be completely honest it has all become a drain (and that is putting it mildly). 

SPECIFICS

I can’t be too specific yet as I want to clear my head to where my thoughts are not emotional, but logical.  Someone recently wrote me saying she called this period:  “The breakdown before the breakthrough!”  I could not have said it better myself!

So today starts with some generic chores that need to be taken care of, then…  who knows! 

JOIN ME?

This is NOT a challenge – I’m riding this wave alone in my own way, BUT… why not JOIN ME and take the time you need!  Each of us are different and our requirements are different, but the one thing we have in common is the need to be healthy, happy, abundant, joyous and a contributor.

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Say Thank You

Let’s make it a point to “Thank at least one person a day!”

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Gut Shabbos,

Roz Fruchtman
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Shabbat Shalom to You and Yours:

Shabbos is the Natural “Weekly” Opportunity which enables you to stay connected and make a difference. 

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In the scheme of things… It takes so little to touch someone’s day and let them know they are remembered!

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Roz Fruchtman
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Geez, my moods change like the weather lately.  I don’t like that…  I’m up one minute, down the next.  Sounds like a mental problem, yeah?  NO… 

It all goes back to the saying “To do the SAME thing and expect DIFFERENT results is the definition of crazy!”  It may not be crazy, but it will slowly, but surely, drive you crazy!

I can honestly say “I Like Me, in fact… I LOVE the person I have become.  I am kinder, softer and more compassionate.  I could not always say that as I did not come from that kind of warm and fuzzy background.  It was something I did not even know I had within me.

Last year I heard Joyce Meyer say something that changed everything for me from that moment on.  I was already in a place of unrest for a long time, but I could not put my finger on it or better yet, I could not put it into words.  Joyce brought it all home for me.  She said something like: “If I lived to me 90 or 100, I’ve already lived more than half my life already and I made up my mind to make the last third the best and most productive!”  This is pretty close, but I’m paraphrasing here.

What I Say…

At 66, I’ve lived more years than I have left and I want the rest to be as joyous, fun filled, productive, honest, full of contribution and learning and so much more. I’m committed to making this happen, no matter what!

Life…

Life is fleeting, it can change in a split second.  Ask me how I know.  Here are a few examples:

• Most recently… I had been out when a severe storm hit – in some places it was a tornado.  I managed to “VERY carefully” get home safely – after the lightening subsided. I walked into my apartment building’s lobby, sent a silent Thank You up to God for getting me home safe, and the next thing I knew I was not walking to the elevator, I slid to the elevator as I slipped on the marble floor ~ because of the lack of a runner!  Maybe it was a life lesson of how quickly things could change.  I was fortunate as things could have been much worse — even though I spent over 5 hours in the hospital emergency room and am still sore.
•  Two years earlier I was coming back from a two mile walk on Mother’s Day.  I had just picked up a few healthy treats on the way home and was heading back for a night of relaxation and excitement watching the Finale of Celebrity Apprentice.  As I walked, I was feeling very good about myself and my recent accomplishment (my 2 mile walk and my decision to eat healthier – this had been a new decision),  when the next thing I knew I was laying on the concrete face-down with a bloody lip and much pain.  I tripped on an uneven sidewalk that is still not fixed more than two years later.  That time I was stuck in for most of the summer and fall and only went out to doctors and to shop for food.  Still I was lucky I did not kill myself the way I fell.  So I count my blessings and move on, glad to be here – even with the lingering back pain.   Once again, my point… Life can change in the blink of an eye!
• One last example:  A little more than four years ago I was walking down the halfway of my apartment when suddenly I saw a “drape like curtain come across my right eye!”  I rubbed it, shook my head and finally it cleared and my vision was restored — but I was left with a shadow in the peripheral vision of the right eye.  Two weeks later I was operated on for a “detached retina!” By the time I had the surgery I had “only a slit” of vision in that eye.  Once again I was fortunate, my eyesight was restored through God’s favor and an excellent Retina Surgeon who I am sure God was watching over.

When I was growing up you only heard of old people dying.  Now people die at any age — even little babies and small children who had their entire lives ahead of them – whose only crime was lying in their crib resting or on their way home from school when a stray bullet struck them dead or through a drunk driver’s negligence.

Today I sit here feeling very positive as I look to a New Year full of new achievements and changes.  This is not just lip service.  It has become more painful to continue doing things the very same way as I’ve done before.  I deserve more.  I want more and I WILL HAVE more! AND… SO SHOULD YOU!!!

I share this with you ONLY becausae I NEVER consider myself unique in my feelings and life’s challenge.  I just might be a bit more outspoken and honest to admit it:  “It’s time to move on as I am not happy with the way things are!”

If we don’t take risks we will surely live a life of failure… failure to have the experience of growing and sharing life’s experiences with others. Through every challenge there is a life lesson.  It could be as simple as: “Now I know what does not work!” OR, “WOW… I DID IT!”

Join Me…

One does not have to wait until a New Year to begin again.  EACH SECOND you have breath is a NEW BEGINNING!

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With Rosh Hashanah right around the corner… My mind is filled with thoughts of reflection, repentance and the idea of starting new.

For those not familiar with the Jewish faith, Rosh Hashanah is the Jewish New Year.  By tradition, Rosh Hashanah is a time to reflect on past sins and misdeeds.  It is a time to repent and ask forgiveness, forgive others and ultimately as with any new year, it is a time to begin again with a fresh and clean slate.

Last year I realized the person I needed to ask forgiveness of “was me!”  I don’t know about you, but sometimes I think we are our own worst enemies — I know I am.

So I’m beginning early… I’m on a mission to take my life back, relearn how to focus and concentrate on the things “I want for me!”

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In my opinion…  I think this one is very important because while we may be entrepreneurs, we are customers too.

I believe in EXCELLENT Customer Service and I provide it too.  Perhaps that’s the reason why I go out of my way to provide what I call #1 Customer Service because I feel so many companies no longer care.  It feels like… Once they get your money they could care less.  I know you know what I mean on this one!

Expecting Someone to Say Thank You

This has been a sore spot with me for years.  My friend Loretta says I expect too much.  She says while people should, they no longer feel the need to say thank you or they just don’t even consider it a necessity!  I think that’s nuts.  However, while I might not agree…  her way of thinking is better than mine as it avoids being hurt, angry or worse yet feeling like a door mat!

I go out of the way to quickly respond to the rare questions my members ask and the questions of site visitors.  Loretta says I also answer too quickly as well.  She says no one expects an immediate response in today’s world.  Well that may be true, I just can’t help myself. I feel if they have a question I need to do my best to respond quickly!  But it offends me when I respond and then do not get a thank you ~especially when I go the extra mile. To me, it feels like because our business is represented by a website and  not a live person, they do not see us as people — people just like them.

• What do you think? 
  • Do you think people should say Thank You?
  • Do you expect them to say Thank You?
  • Do you get offended when people do not Thank You? 

I mean, FOR REAL, am I the only one who feels it important to say Thank You?

I really would love to hear your thoughts on this one.  Is Loretta right… that I expect too much?

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Things just fell into place for me to write this Blog post today, so I’m supposing it is the right thing to do!  I even found an appropriate quotation by randomly opening my gratitude book– go figure!

“Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are.
Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart.
Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow.
Let me hold you while I may, for it may not always be so.
One day I shall dig my nails into the earth,
or bury my face in the pillow,
or stretch myself taut,
or raise my hands to the sky and want,
more than all the world, your return.”
— Mary Jean Iron

If you’ve been following along… besides the normal daily drama, I’ve been going through lots of technical issues — and losing lots and lots of sleep and patience.  Like everything else, one thing gets solved, another takes its place.  The object is to roll with the punches and keep balanced, but  how does one do that? 

For me it is to take a deep breath, walk away and get back to basics.  What is basic for me may not be basic for you, everyone is different.  For me basics means different things at different times.  I’m feeling spiritually balanced at this moment, so for me back to basics today was to have lunch and plop myself down in front of the TV to catch up with my favorite soaps.

WELL there is more… 

I decided to do some decluttering and plow through a bunch of junk mail and papers I no longer needed.  That would have been mindless, but my shredder broke and until one goes on sale, I’m doing it the old fashioned way!

SOOOOOOOOOOOOO…  I sat for one hour “manually” furiously ripping and tearing everything into shreds – being what I like to call “destructively productive.”

You know what?  By the time I got done I was feeling calmer and more than a little contented knowing I actually did something I’d been meaning to do — declutter and file — while destressing in the process! You gotta love it!

Had my spirit been bruised…  I’d have picked an appropriate spiritual CD set and took myself for a walk. OR, grabbed my camera and just walked until I found something to photograph!  Today, I just felt like being alone with me!

What Do You Do to Get Back On Track?

What do you do when you are feeling frustrated and need some de-stressing?

COMMENTS

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Luv & Hugs,

Roz Fruchtman
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Last week started out to be a strange week and it ended the same way, but…  all’s well that ends well!  Everything works out for good in the end!  I have one question though:  ”When does this episode end?”

Here is my latest challenge.

When I use hyphens, quotes, etc. in my blog post titles they are replaced with crazy coding like ASCII Text.

This happened with WordPress 2.9.2 and now with WordPress 3.0.1. So it is NOT version specific.  It is also NOT theme specific.

After much investigation I did find one of my blogs that works correctly and it was suggested by Lisa Sabin-Wilson – Author of WordPress For Dummies 3.0 (@LisaSabinWilson on Twitter); and Cathy Perkins aka The WordPress Wizard (@WordPressWizard on Twitter) – two WordPress Gurus that this is/can be a database issue.

I’ve written my host and sent him the video below to demonstrate my issue and ask for his help and input!

As they say:  A picture speaks a thousand words, that’s why I’m including it here in case anyone else is or will be experiencing this issue in the future.

VIEWING NOTE:  In this case, since it is my computer screen… You might want to watch the video on YouTube where you can see it more clearly.  BELOW is the direct link to the YouTube.com version.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_hilJqQR64

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The – in the title is NOT a hyphen. It was typed with ASCII code ALT 0150 on numerical keyboard.

This is a fun post that I hope will get some interesting comments.   What does Friday the 13th mean to you? Are you superstitious? 

I suppose — at least for me — as one gets older and more realistic one becomes less superstitious (or do they)?

Although I won’t walk under a ladder if I can help it and am not too happy when a mirror breaks, I do my best to not give into the bad luck thing. 

This is a silly one.  At one time…  If I found coins that were “tails up” I would NOT pick them up.  Yet IF I found bills, heads or tails did not matter.   TODAY… I pick it all up as long as it is money and consider it “good luck, whether heads of tails.”  After all, it was there, I found it…  “so isn’t that good luck?”  I once found a $20 bill getting off the bus.  Oddly enough earlier I had lost my own MTA (bus card) with almost $20 on it!

What does this Friday the 13th mean to me?

I’m hoping for a relaxing day.  My site was hacked earlier this week.  It’s fixed now, and I’m looking forward to some rest and relaxation — no matter what the date is. 

IN FACT… I’m looking forward to lots of good luck!  What about you? 

What are you thinking about this Friday the 13th?

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Luv & Hugs,

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