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Roz on Change: What’s All This About Changing Who I Am? Who You Are? Who We Are? I Like Me…

I just visited a blog and it bugged me with all this nonsense about CHANGING who you are.  I LIKE ME!  It took me a lifetime to get to know THE REAL ROZ!

Yes… I am always looking for ways to improve, which I look at as growth. Growth is good. Growth is fun and learning new things is fun and healthy, it keeps one young and in touch.

I was brought up by non-emotionally supportive parents.  I was never good enough.  I was never like their friend’s children, they never liked my friends, I embarrassed them (only in their heads), etc. etc. It was non-ending!

Finally in 2002 or 2003 when I did my first program with Tony Robbins ~ “Get The Edge,” I unloaded all that old junk (for lack of a more colorful word).  Tony’s simple statement “Your Past Is Not Your Future” freed me forever. Before that I used to say: “I am where I came from,” or “I am a product of my upbringing!”  RUBBISH!

I DO embrace where I came from because it gave me a glimpse into the lives of what others might be feeling.  When I say “I know how you feel,” I DO!

I hate it that people are using that old language to get you to coach with them or buy their products.  It’s lousy marketing and disgusting that people are praying on all those old or perhaps in today’s economy with all its challenges…  NEW beliefs, fears of hangups.

I can’t write what I would really like to say, but…

There is NOTHING wrong with you:

  • Make your decisions using YOUR “good common sense!”
  • NEVER make a decision on emotion. It will be the wrong decision most of the time if you do.

Please comment below and let me/us know how YOU feel about this.  We can grow together!

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1 Michael Hanna-Fein { 09.13.09 at 4:01 pm }

What you say makes very good sense to me for the most part. I do believe we are a product of our upbringing and environment, however, as with all products, there is a freshness expiration date. In order for us to improve ourselves and concurrently, our lives, it is important to take inventory of our environment, past and present, so we can then decide what to keep and what to discard. Then we take the stuff we want to keep, and use it as the foundation for building our improved, more productive, and altogether more gratifying life.

I think your blog is terrific, and I am entirely thrilled with the new serenity I sense in your writing and expressions. You appear to be much calmer, accepting and self-aware, and you are using all of these tools to bring out the best you have to offer others, and most importantly, yourself.

2 Roz Fruchtman { 09.13.09 at 5:32 pm }

Thanks for taking time to comment Michael and for the lovely compliment. You are very observant. ;)

It is true, I am calmer and more accepting, but most of all, I AM BEING ME! It’s the being me part that is making me calmer and more accepting. Let me explain.

With the new (or maybe not so new) Social Networking and Media and the outcry for authenticity, I feel like I am taking a stand.

There are those who feel we should never write anything negative and always be inspiring, but life it not all inspiration and feeling alone in things make our trials and tribulations worse.

I DO NOT believe in putting one’s entire personal business on the Internet, but I DO believe that sharing some of the negative makes others feel less lonely and helps them to relate to us as people. After all, “WE ARE people first!” AND, people are human beings!

I know, for me… knowing that someone I trust and can relate to is or was going through something similar to me, IS an inspiration for me to move forward in a positive fashion and NOT feel so isolated.

Thanks again, I agree with your comment wholeheartedly.

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