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Roz Shares – The Biggest Commitment in Life is “Between ME with ME,” and “Between YOU with YOU!”

How are you on commitments? Do you put yourself first?

Are  you more dedicated to keeping commitments with others than with yourself? 

There is something wrong with this picture IF you continually put others before yourself.  YOU are the MOST IMPORTANT person TO YOU! (Or you should be!)

If we do not take care of ourselves there will be very little to share with others?

If we do not keep our commitments to ourselves eventually it will take its toll on who we are. 

After 911 I experienced the darkest time of my life.  Sure we all had sadness, some more than others.  As a New Yorker and one who was caught in the Manhattan lockdown and had to walk miles to get home, I still cannot talk about 911 without getting choked up, but it was more than that.

Right before 911 I had lost a nice amount of weight.  I can’t remember now… maybe 20 or 25 pounds or so.  AFTER 911 I gained it all back.  Now I had to lose it again as everything was tight and I was not comfortable – in fact I was miserable. I did not want to buy bigger clothes.  The only problem was…

Anything I promised myself I did not follow through.  IF I went on a diet it would last a week or two, if I said I was going to exercise, that too did not last for long.

I always considered myself a survivor, someone who was strong, but…   because of my own lack of commitment to myself during this period… Eventually I felt like such a disappointment to myself that my self esteem and confidence was in the toilet.

When I did my first Tony Robbins program I turned that all around.  I began to walk at least five days a week.  I remember marking off the calendar on the fridge.  I began to watch what I ate and lost the weight (I  need to do that once again), I began to feel good about me BECAUSE this was “all about me!” You know how people say:  “IT IS ‘NOT’ ALL ABOUT YOU!”  Well that was and I was PROUD OF IT!

My point, WE “ALL” need to put “ourselves on top of our TO DO Lists!”

I am sitting here now, almost 3:00 am writing three blog posts because of a commitment I made to write 5 blog posts a week for 30 days. 

While I made the commitment to write the blog posts to Faith Barnard’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Group on Facebook, the biggest commitment was the one I made to myself!

I had wanted to work on three blogs at the same time, but I think this one, where I can express myself and perhaps inspire and encourage others is the most important one to start with.

JOIN ME in “making YOU the MOST IMPORTANT person TO YOU!


I would love to hear your thoughts and comments on the subject.  Please type them in the Comments Box below. I look forward to sharing with you. Let’s create a “community of encouragement and inspiration!”

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1 Lee Wise { 08.17.10 at 8:49 am }

Hi Roz,

Yes, I think that things like zeroing in on who we are, our values and purpose(s) help us in making those all important “self commitments” is an important process.

And, personally, I think that many times our commitments are combination of “to” ourselves in a manner of speaking yet “for” something or someone else. However, in the end we must make the decision, stick to it, and go from there.

Thanks for sharing, Roz. Obviously a message from the heart.


P.S. Congrats on your posting!!

2 Roz Fruchtman { 09.06.10 at 4:18 am }

Hi Lee:

I come from a time when we kept lots of things to ourselves. While it hurt us for not being able to share, it also hurt others who were going through the same things and felt they were alone. For example: My childhood was not happy in the fact it was filled with words of discouragement and negativity, which in turn instilled self doubt and discontent. Who would have thought of things like “being true to one’s self or one’s commitment to one’s self!” I did not even know the meaning of the words!

If by sharing my thoughts I could help one person, it will be enough! It’s a daily struggle for me to remain balanced with things constantly changing and being thrust in the way of the negativity and the incompetence of others ~ NOT that I’m saying I am perfect! That is yet another post that I’m not ready to write as I’m too involved in it and can’t be objective.

Thanks so much Lee for stopping by and commenting.


3 Lee Wise { 09.06.10 at 9:19 am }


You are most welcome, of course, for the comment. I realize you are not saying you are perfect… but just keeping up an honorable effort to stay positive and influence others in a positive manner!

All the best to you this day,


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