Category — Roz Shares

A week or so ago I decided to take 30 days to evaluate what it is I want to do and how I could fix or eliminate  those things that are not working for me.

It’s been about 10 days so far and I have not even begun to evaluate ~ thus the 30 days will be extended.  REMEMBER: This exercise was to “eliminate ALL stress and ALL pressure while making life-changing decisions!”

The first week was taken up with personal business that needed taking care of.  Ordinarily I would have been stressed just taking the time, but since I’ve “given myself the gift of time” it was not stressful at all ~a little wasteful, but not stressful. 

One day was spent waiting around at a government office to have some information updated.  Just as it was my next “the computers went down!”  Since it was a long trip, I decided to hang around a bit, but they never came back up and I had to return two days later.  At which time I waited some more and when called I was told I had to come back late November.  While it was wasteful in one area, it was informative in others.  AND… I even got to get out and enjoy the wonderful New York weather and get some much needed exercise.  SEE… “I’ve already begun to put a positive spin on a negative situation.”  Just that demonstrated TO ME… I was beginning to think differently. 

The past few days have been taken up with horrendous activities like: Watching TV, eating, sleeping and doing a repeat performance a few times a day ~with a little computer time in between. Don’t ya just feel sorry for me? ;)  The point is, I have not even begun to evaluate anything except the fact I’m tired and “I just want to re-learn how to just be!” I can’t stay at the computer for more than a little while without feeling like I need to escape!  For me… just feeling that is odd.

THE GUILTS

It’s interesting…  Since I am taking this vacation of sorts “at home” I’m feeling guilty just lounging around.

IF I were away at a resort I would just veg out on a chaise lounge with NO guilt.  I wish I could figure out why relaxing when away at a resort is ok, but relaxing at home is not ~This IS VERY IMPORTANT!  What have “I done to myself?”

Adding blogging each day would just recreate the pressure I’m trying to remove. 

I DECIDED NOT TOO

To eliminate any stress of “having to do ANYTHING at all” I’ve decided NOT to blog each day.  I’m  just taking notes and observing the journey.  So far “I’m just being!”  That’s not a bad place to be, but I still do not feel up to doing much more!  Thus… I decided to write this blog post to eliminate the stress of breaking the promise of blogging each day, besides some things really are personal!

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Today starts my 30 Day Journey of “Everything Roz!”  Before this writing I was calling it just a much needed vacation, but it is much more than that. 

You may ask, what on earth does “Everything Roz” mean?  Read on, you might relate more than you’d like to admit!

• Did you ever feel like everything was just too much;
• That you just did not want to take it anymore;
• Like you felt like a doormat;
• Like YOU were the only one who cared;
• Like the very things you loved and cared about were no longer important and fun?

Well if you felt anything I described above your are not alone.  Some would call it burnout, but I think — at least in my case — there is more to it.

Have you ever heard the expression:  “To do the same thing and expect different results is crazy!”  Well it is…  IF things are not working, CHANGE THEM! 

BUT, BUT, BUT, BUT…  change is hard. It’s hard to say goodbye to something you love or to doing something you love in a different way.  But you know what?  I bet it is freeing once the decision is made! I’m not there yet, but that is my mission!

I’ve decided to take 30 Days (or more) to just chill and take some time to decide what I really want to do and learn some essential software’s and programs along the way.  This is NOT just more learning, but learning things that will help me, help others!

Sometimes we are our own worst enemies ~ especially when we are lucky enough to make most of our own rules and the rules we DO make DO NOT serve us!

So today starts the period of evaluation for me, starting with:

• My health
• My apartment
• Decisions about my business
• Decisions how to use my skills and creativity to produce income while contributing to other’s needs

WHAT I DO NOT WANT

I just do not want to do the same things I’ve done up until now.  I’ve learned a lot and all that I learned is useful, but it is just not making me happy any longer.  In fact, if I were to be completely honest it has all become a drain (and that is putting it mildly). 

SPECIFICS

I can’t be too specific yet as I want to clear my head to where my thoughts are not emotional, but logical.  Someone recently wrote me saying she called this period:  “The breakdown before the breakthrough!”  I could not have said it better myself!

So today starts with some generic chores that need to be taken care of, then…  who knows! 

JOIN ME?

This is NOT a challenge – I’m riding this wave alone in my own way, BUT… why not JOIN ME and take the time you need!  Each of us are different and our requirements are different, but the one thing we have in common is the need to be healthy, happy, abundant, joyous and a contributor.

COMMENTS

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Say Thank You

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Gut Shabbos,

Roz Fruchtman
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Geez, my moods change like the weather lately.  I don’t like that…  I’m up one minute, down the next.  Sounds like a mental problem, yeah?  NO… 

It all goes back to the saying “To do the SAME thing and expect DIFFERENT results is the definition of crazy!”  It may not be crazy, but it will slowly, but surely, drive you crazy!

I can honestly say “I Like Me, in fact… I LOVE the person I have become.  I am kinder, softer and more compassionate.  I could not always say that as I did not come from that kind of warm and fuzzy background.  It was something I did not even know I had within me.

Last year I heard Joyce Meyer say something that changed everything for me from that moment on.  I was already in a place of unrest for a long time, but I could not put my finger on it or better yet, I could not put it into words.  Joyce brought it all home for me.  She said something like: “If I lived to me 90 or 100, I’ve already lived more than half my life already and I made up my mind to make the last third the best and most productive!”  This is pretty close, but I’m paraphrasing here.

What I Say…

At 66, I’ve lived more years than I have left and I want the rest to be as joyous, fun filled, productive, honest, full of contribution and learning and so much more. I’m committed to making this happen, no matter what!

Life…

Life is fleeting, it can change in a split second.  Ask me how I know.  Here are a few examples:

• Most recently… I had been out when a severe storm hit – in some places it was a tornado.  I managed to “VERY carefully” get home safely – after the lightening subsided. I walked into my apartment building’s lobby, sent a silent Thank You up to God for getting me home safe, and the next thing I knew I was not walking to the elevator, I slid to the elevator as I slipped on the marble floor ~ because of the lack of a runner!  Maybe it was a life lesson of how quickly things could change.  I was fortunate as things could have been much worse — even though I spent over 5 hours in the hospital emergency room and am still sore.
•  Two years earlier I was coming back from a two mile walk on Mother’s Day.  I had just picked up a few healthy treats on the way home and was heading back for a night of relaxation and excitement watching the Finale of Celebrity Apprentice.  As I walked, I was feeling very good about myself and my recent accomplishment (my 2 mile walk and my decision to eat healthier – this had been a new decision),  when the next thing I knew I was laying on the concrete face-down with a bloody lip and much pain.  I tripped on an uneven sidewalk that is still not fixed more than two years later.  That time I was stuck in for most of the summer and fall and only went out to doctors and to shop for food.  Still I was lucky I did not kill myself the way I fell.  So I count my blessings and move on, glad to be here – even with the lingering back pain.   Once again, my point… Life can change in the blink of an eye!
• One last example:  A little more than four years ago I was walking down the halfway of my apartment when suddenly I saw a “drape like curtain come across my right eye!”  I rubbed it, shook my head and finally it cleared and my vision was restored — but I was left with a shadow in the peripheral vision of the right eye.  Two weeks later I was operated on for a “detached retina!” By the time I had the surgery I had “only a slit” of vision in that eye.  Once again I was fortunate, my eyesight was restored through God’s favor and an excellent Retina Surgeon who I am sure God was watching over.

When I was growing up you only heard of old people dying.  Now people die at any age — even little babies and small children who had their entire lives ahead of them – whose only crime was lying in their crib resting or on their way home from school when a stray bullet struck them dead or through a drunk driver’s negligence.

Today I sit here feeling very positive as I look to a New Year full of new achievements and changes.  This is not just lip service.  It has become more painful to continue doing things the very same way as I’ve done before.  I deserve more.  I want more and I WILL HAVE more! AND… SO SHOULD YOU!!!

I share this with you ONLY becausae I NEVER consider myself unique in my feelings and life’s challenge.  I just might be a bit more outspoken and honest to admit it:  “It’s time to move on as I am not happy with the way things are!”

If we don’t take risks we will surely live a life of failure… failure to have the experience of growing and sharing life’s experiences with others. Through every challenge there is a life lesson.  It could be as simple as: “Now I know what does not work!” OR, “WOW… I DID IT!”

Join Me…

One does not have to wait until a New Year to begin again.  EACH SECOND you have breath is a NEW BEGINNING!

COMMENTS

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With Rosh Hashanah right around the corner… My mind is filled with thoughts of reflection, repentance and the idea of starting new.

For those not familiar with the Jewish faith, Rosh Hashanah is the Jewish New Year.  By tradition, Rosh Hashanah is a time to reflect on past sins and misdeeds.  It is a time to repent and ask forgiveness, forgive others and ultimately as with any new year, it is a time to begin again with a fresh and clean slate.

Last year I realized the person I needed to ask forgiveness of “was me!”  I don’t know about you, but sometimes I think we are our own worst enemies — I know I am.

So I’m beginning early… I’m on a mission to take my life back, relearn how to focus and concentrate on the things “I want for me!”

COMMENTS

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Things just fell into place for me to write this Blog post today, so I’m supposing it is the right thing to do!  I even found an appropriate quotation by randomly opening my gratitude book– go figure!

“Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are.
Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart.
Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow.
Let me hold you while I may, for it may not always be so.
One day I shall dig my nails into the earth,
or bury my face in the pillow,
or stretch myself taut,
or raise my hands to the sky and want,
more than all the world, your return.”
— Mary Jean Iron

If you’ve been following along… besides the normal daily drama, I’ve been going through lots of technical issues — and losing lots and lots of sleep and patience.  Like everything else, one thing gets solved, another takes its place.  The object is to roll with the punches and keep balanced, but  how does one do that? 

For me it is to take a deep breath, walk away and get back to basics.  What is basic for me may not be basic for you, everyone is different.  For me basics means different things at different times.  I’m feeling spiritually balanced at this moment, so for me back to basics today was to have lunch and plop myself down in front of the TV to catch up with my favorite soaps.

WELL there is more… 

I decided to do some decluttering and plow through a bunch of junk mail and papers I no longer needed.  That would have been mindless, but my shredder broke and until one goes on sale, I’m doing it the old fashioned way!

SOOOOOOOOOOOOO…  I sat for one hour “manually” furiously ripping and tearing everything into shreds – being what I like to call “destructively productive.”

You know what?  By the time I got done I was feeling calmer and more than a little contented knowing I actually did something I’d been meaning to do — declutter and file — while destressing in the process! You gotta love it!

Had my spirit been bruised…  I’d have picked an appropriate spiritual CD set and took myself for a walk. OR, grabbed my camera and just walked until I found something to photograph!  Today, I just felt like being alone with me!

What Do You Do to Get Back On Track?

What do you do when you are feeling frustrated and need some de-stressing?

COMMENTS

I would love to hear your thoughts and comments on the subject.  Please type them in the Comments Box below. I look forward to sharing with you. Let’s create a “community of encouragement and inspiration!”

Say Thank You

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Luv & Hugs,

Roz Fruchtman
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